Mastering your inner game…

June 20, 2011 at 1:53 am 1 comment

Last week, I wrote about how many of us may be sabotaguing ourselves.  See, Find out how you are sabotaging yourself?

We act and perform in accordance with our beliefs. Our beliefs reside in the unconcious, which means that many of us are not even aware of why we are the way we are!

So – what happens when we are not acting in our own best interest? Are you letting your fears stop you from taking action? Do you find yourself stuck? Are you restricting the choices you have?

How do we get out of our own way?

Here are 3 ways of moving beyond.

  1.   Master your Inner Game (to borrow a phrase from Tim Gallwey of The Inner Game fame)
    You see – we play 2 games – an inner game and an outer game. The outer game is played against your opponent. The inner game is played against yourself, and is full of anxiety and self-doubt. We need to Master our Inner Game.
  2. Positive Self Talk – are you aware of what you say to yourself every day? It can and does make a huge difference in how think and act.
     – When my son was 14, I had him take out a large piece of flip chart paper, and a set of markers – and spend 30 minutes noting his goals for the year. There were 4! I had him re-do it in the present tense – and then paste it on the wall opposite his bed, so that it was the first thing he saw as he opened his eyes. It was done under duress – and as a pacifier to whacky mom. When all his 4 goals had become reality by Christmas – he was a believer! He re-did them on Jan 1st for 6 months this time. Again and again they have become reality! He is now an evangelist!
    – Repeat positive phrases to yourself all day – and do so in the present tense. It may sound like –I live a blessed, wonderful, fulfilled life; I am successful in my sales career; I have made 3 new contacts today; I am the best!etc.  I have even been known to put it to music.. .and I often amuse myself and make up jingles.
  3. Sit in  Silence – Silence is a source of great strength.  ~Lao Tzu
    Silence has an energy and power all of its own. We come to know our stregnth and our power through silence. We live in a world where we seldom have occassion to be quiet. Think of all the noise and interruptions you are exposed to. Our lives are run by ringings and buzzings and words and music.
    Sit in silence for at least 15 minutes every day. At first, you will be surprised at how hard that is. Then – you will come to see the beauty in the silence. Many people run from themselves, and don’t want to be alone with their thoughts.
    Sit with your thoughts – make friends with yourself – and see the emerging grace.



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‘Seeing’ beyond….. Do you operate at Your best?

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  • 1. Barb Levy  |  June 23, 2011 at 2:50 pm

    Great information Marg.


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